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“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” Proverbs 3:5. Such a small sentence in the big scheme of things, but such a powerful indicator of our relationship with the Lord.

I come from a family of natural questioners, and by that I mean if one of us says that something is broken and can’t be fixed, it’s not enough to actually take that person at their word. We have to actually check it out for ourselves, and, many times we come to the same conclusion.

I was pointedly reminded of that when my father came for a visit. I told him my CD player was broken and that I had done everything I knew how to do to fix to no avail. “Well,” he said. “Do you mind if I take a look?”

Of course I didn’t mind because even though I work with DVD and CD players on a pretty regular basis, I don’t know everything. Even though I was almost 100 % sure that it couldn’t be fixed, a second pair of eyes is always a good thing.

As I watched him perusing the player it suddenly hit me how many times I do this myself. If someone says, ‘such and such’, or’ thus and so’, I immediately question the veracity of what they’re saying. Unless I know the person well, and really trust them, I usually need to check it out for myself, especially if it has to do with scripture or some sort of theological teaching.

I had assumed this particular trait came only from my mother who questions everything after the fact, but realized that I actually came by the trait honestly from both sides of the family tree.

And, not only do I have it, but I see it in my son as well. Even though he questions me on a great many things, at the end of the day he trusts what I tell him, something that he doesn’t do with most people. Just recently, his teacher wrote on his report card that he needed to trust her. This may seem like an odd thing to write, but I knew exactly what she meant, because I encounter the same issue with him when he does his homework. He doesn’t really trust that you’re telling him to do a problem correctly unless he can really wrap his head around how to do it himself. The problem is sometimes he just can’t figure it out on his own.

He actually causes himself a lot of undue frustration and stress when he does this. Why? Because basically he’s fighting the very person, or people, who may be able to help him with his schoolwork the most. It’s a battle until he finally gets it all out, listens to what he’s told and believes that he’s being given the correct information. After that, he’s done lickty-split.

After watching my Father over the CD player, my son over his schoolwork and myself in many other situations, I thought how many times do we do this with God? We need to weigh out whether or not He really knows what He’s doing, usually by trying to double-check Him from our own understanding, before we trust that He is more than capable of doing what’s best for us.

And, many times, we do more than try and double-check Him – which is laughable because He has all the facts and we don’t even have a fraction of them – but we actively fight Him until we either give up in exhaustion, or, He’s actually able to get it through our thick skulls that it’s okay to trust Him.

And, basically, that’s a huge part of why we fight Him. We have a fear of trusting. We’re afraid he’s not who He says He is. We’re afraid He’s not going to do what He said He will do. We’re afraid he won’t come through for us. We’re afraid to trust Him because for many of us our own trust has been so shattered over the years that we can’t conceive of someone who actually is completely trustworthy.

The catch-22 of this is the reality is that He is the only one who is completely and totally trustworthy. Why? Because He is incapable of being anything else.

“But I trust in You LORD; I say, ‘You are my God.'”

Psalm 31:14

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Family traits are amazing to see. No matter what family you’re in, there’s bound to be something that you do that almost everyone else in the family does as well.

Many times they are little things, gestures, the way everyone tilts their heads to one side or the other when they’re thinking, or even phrases that repeat themselves, rolling down from one generation to the next.

I was reminded of this just this morning when I was talking with my mom who was telling me a story that ended with “I told him ‘don’t worry’.” When she said that I realized that all of her sisters say the same thing, and so do all of my female cousins, the daughters of those sisters. And, I say the same thing in a slightly different way, instead of ‘don’t worry’ I say ‘no worries’ but it’s essentially the same.

If you’re around any, or all of us, in a group you’ll hear that phrase repeated again and again. Even though none of us have a little gene that has ‘don’t worry’ written on it on our genetic code, you would think there was something like it threaded through our family tree.

When I look around the family of God, I think there’s got to be something like that in His family too. Some little thing that shows others that we all belong to His family, but is untraceable in any type of genetic way, yet is evident in how we live our lives.

What is that trait that should reveal to anyone else looking in at us whose family we belong to? Simply put love. Not love the way the way we see it reflected in the world around us, but love that is reflective of He who alone is love, God Himself.

The type of love that God is is so far removed from us, and how we are, that there is no way we can ever hope to obtain it on our own. And, when we see it in others, it can only mean one thing, they belong to Him and His family.

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.”  John 15:12

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