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My Necktie -- 1/7/5

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Odd things come up when you’re a two person, mother-son household. Things you don’t even expect to think to know, you find out you don’t know by running into them face first, like tying a tie for instance.

 My son was going to his first cotillion and we were down to the wire with getting him out of the house, when he walked up to me with his tie and asked me to help him with it.

 I looked at the lavender silk tie hanging innocently from his hand, and, I realized I had no idea how to tie a tie and neither did he.

 In preparation for the event I had thought of everything else, I had even bought the tie, but I had not even given a second thought to how it was going to end up around his neck.

 We just looked at each other for split second, both of us realizing about the same time that neither of us knew how to perform the miracle of folds that would turn a slim tailored piece of silk into a passable approximation of a necktie. 

 This was a new experience for my son, coming to me and my not knowing how to do something. I could see his tension level rise as we looked at one another as my mind began to frantically think of solutions to the problem. As I went through all the possible men who could have helped if there was enough time, the realization that there was not enough time even if I got in touch with any of them made the situation even more weighty.

 The prime suspect of tie tying is actually my dad who lives over 1,500 miles away. Even if we had the time to call, he may or may not  have remembered how to do what so easily came to him not too long ago. He even showed my son how to tie a tie less than a year earlier, but the details were promptly forgotten by my then ‘tween son. And, of course, I didn’t pay attention either.

 So, after a moment of frantic thinking, I did what any mother would do in such a situation, I turned to YouTube for the solution to our problem.

 And, after a moment or two of searching I found a short video that showed us the basics of tie tying, and, we were able to get the job done without too much fuss about how big or small the knot was.

 How many times does that happen in life? We don’t even know we don’t know something we need to know, until we’re faced with it point-blank. It’s at those times that we realize that even if we don’t know how to do something, we do need to know where to go for the answers and solutions to our problem, and why it’s so important to not only know where to go, but to be able to search through it effectively as well.

 The reason why I was able to find the right video quickly is because I spend a fair amount of time on YouTube. In the same way, any of us who turn to the Word of God to find answers to our problems, need to spend a lot of time in the Bible when we aren’t in need, so we can, with the help of the Holy Spirit, quickly find answers to our questions when we are.

 “I delight in your decrees; I will not neglect your word.”

Psalm 119:16

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